sex

Henry Harvey asks: When is a Woman Like a Stradivarius?

On the Eve of 2014, it seems worthwhile to reflect on what makes life worth living...

Editor’s Note: Although I originally tapped Henry to write about a man’s relationship to vibrators, he’s catapulted into a wider realm. Ladies, trip through Henry’s exegesis with good cheer. Personally I’m still pondering whether I want to be likened to a violin, which is why I chose the image above. After all, if women are instruments, does that automatically make men players? Are we not players as well? I wonder which instrument they would choose to be... surely not merely flutes:)

When is a Woman like a Stradivarius?

The Editor of Realize wrote me recently...

Meet Brenda Lewis, Realize's Own Dating, Sex and Intimacy Coach

Sex Over 50 should be a cause for celebration

Welcome Brenda Lewis to the Realize Team! She'll be answering questions and addressing issues from the fields of sexuality, intimacy, dating and relationships for the over 50 crowd. Watch this interview to get a feel for what a marvelous, down-to-earth approach she takes to some of the most complicated stuff about being human...

Brenda A. Lewis, LCSW, is a New York City based psychotherapist with over two decades of experience in private practice. She works with adults and couples of all ages and cultural/religious backgrounds.

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Everyone Ought to have a Lelo

If you don't already know what that is, you'd best read on...

by Georgie Spottiswode

What’s a Lelo? To be more precise what is a Mona, made by Lelo? What is sleekly designed and silky smooth, purple or pink with a gleaming white handle possessed of 4 recessed buttons used to create myriad sensations of pleasure? Okay, we’re done being coy.

For some reason, despite navigating the sex hopped sixties, my genteel WASP upbringing still retains a slight stranglehold on my ability to ublicly speak about, OMG, dildos. I remember the first time I ever laid startled eyes on one - in the hands of my young, studly 17 year old lover who had found, in his maiden...

Sex Survey for Men 50+

Are we Gettin' Jiggy Enuf?

Why has Realize created this survey?

We believe sex is as important at this age as ever. For the intimacy, the liberation, the joy. And we think that guys of a certain age don’t get enough space to unburden themselves about their sex lives. The media is full of patronizing pep talks or downright negativity about anyone over 50 ‘doing it.’

Perhaps the search is no longer for quantity but quality. Perhaps we learn to be connoisseurs of sex as an art form. Or not. You tell us.

Look, we know we need it. Most of...